Transform Your Life by Speaking Your Truth

Learning to speak your truth is key to creating the life you want, with joy and abundance!

Speaking your truth rarely comes naturally, especially if you were raised in a family where you were encouraged to be agreeable and to not speak your mind. So, the idea of speaking your truth might leave you feeling vulnerable and exposed, open to criticism and ridicule, which is why so many people avoid speaking their truth. It brings up a lot of fear; a perceived risk that you might lose someone or a something if you dare to share your true thoughts and feelings on a subject or situation.

The first step is to bring awareness to the fact that you may be hiding your truth, because once you bring awareness to something, you can finally begin to work with it. Examples of hiding your truth might include the following:

  • I say certain things to be liked or accepted by others
  • I avoid saying certain things to keep the peace
  • It’s simply easier to agree than disagree
  • I often say “yes” when I would rather say “no”
  • I prefer to tell a little white lie to make someone feel better
  • I don’t want to seem different or extreme, so I keep my perspectives to myself
  • I often think of many things I wish I had said during a conversation or argument after the fact
  • I feel I must live by someone else’s rules, and then become angry and frustrated about it

If you recognize yourself in any of the above situations, you can conclude that you are hiding your truth and your authenticity. Yes, you might occasionally see yourself doing a few of these examples, but they should only be rare exceptions. If any of these are regular patterns for you, they are considered coping mechanisms for more negative situations that are keeping you limited and disempowered, leading you to hide your truth and to be inauthentic. And being inauthentic has a negative impact on the flow of your abundance. That’s because everything is energy, including your words, thoughts, emotions and intentions. We’re meant to create our abundance on Earth in ways that use our soul gifts through empowered action, and the energy or vibration of that empowered action will attract empowered results to us through law of attraction.

Being inauthentic also has an energetic vibration, albeit a negative one because it doesn’t serve your soul growth. That negative energy must go somewhere, it doesn’t just disappear. Rather, it will go to the physical body to try to get your attention. Therefore, your body might also be giving you clues that you are hiding your truth: if you are someone who is prone to throat problems or infections, constantly clearing your throat, have chronic dry mouth or problems with your neck, teeth, gums or tongue, these could well be signs of hiding your truth because they are all part of the 5th chakra, which is the throat chakra or communication energy center of the body.

The Benefits of Speaking your Truth

The real risk of being inauthentic is that it sends mixed messages not only to the recipient, but to yourself and the universe at large. Living in law of attraction means that the vibration of our intentions will attract similar and equal results. If you are not getting the results you want in life, you want to examine what you are putting out as your truth. Is your truth about avoidance and upholding relationships and situations that are draining you and keeping you unhappy? Or is your truth only about saying yes to the things that make you feel joyful and abundant? The good news is, it’s never too late to change!

The greatest gift you can give yourself is the permission to live your life authentically and to speak your truth. It creates undeniable freedom, healthy boundaries, self-esteem, self-worth, the ability to take your life in the direction of your deepest desires and to make empowered decisions you never thought possible. It is true soul alignment and, with that, a constant source of energy you might never had had before. We are always receiving vital force energy from Source while in a physical body. It’s up to each of us and our free will to use that energy we receive in any way we choose: We can either use it to keep ourselves small and fearful, or we can use it to create and live the life of our dreams! While it isn’t easy to do this, it’s the most meaningful and impactful work you can do for yourself. And it all starts with speaking your truth, first to yourself and then to everyone else.

Ways to Discover Your Truth

Now that you’ve identified that you may be hiding your truth, you can begin to take action toward opening your authentic self-expression. This takes time and requires reflection and introspection to establish what your truth really is. Be sure to give yourself the time and energy you need to discover who you really are and how you want to live your life so that you can put it into practice. Start to spend time alone, thinking about your life and what you want to achieve. Where do you want to be in a year? In 3 years? 5 years? How can speaking your truth get you where you want to go?

One of the best ways to discover this is by journaling. Putting old-fashioned pen to paper opens the flow of energy from your higher self, so let your imagination run wild as you answer the following questions. Be sure to answer them based on how you truly feel, and not how you were raised to feel or what you think others should hope to hear from you:

  • What brings me joy in life?
  • When do I feel most like myself?
  • When do I feel the least like myself?
  • If I could do anything in life, what would it be?
  • How are the ways I’m telling myself “I can’t?”
  • How are the ways I’m telling myself “I should?”
  • What do I need in order to feel “free?”
  • What do I need from each of my relationships?
  • What is my deepest desire to have in this lifetime?
  • What actions can I take right now to start living the life of my dreams?

Just know that when you start speaking your truth, you will no longer be serving and supporting many of those around you, especially if you were a people-pleaser or needing approval from others. They will push back against your newfound truth, so be sure to stand your ground. It’s okay; let the relationship or situation run its course. How it works out in the end will be supportive of your truth, and that is what you need for authentic self-expression.

You may then see that not speaking your truth is linked to everything else in your life that has kept you unhappy: your relationships with family members and romantic partners, your lack of self-esteem and self-worth, your job, where you live, how you live…while this may be scary to contemplate, it opens the door to leading the life you truly desire. And that is why each of us is here in the first place!

Want to learn to open your 5th chakra and start speaking your truth?  I can teach you how in my online course, "Live a Soul-Powered Life!"  You will learn how to access your own Akashic Record to reveal hidden karma, blocks you might be blind to that are keeping you from living your soul's truth and manifesting the abundance you deserve.

Written by Patty Oliver, Energy Healer, Author, Spiritual Advisor